What is Domestic Abuse?
Domestic abuse isn't just about physical violence — it can be any kind of behaviour that makes you feel scared, controlled, or unsafe. All families disagree and fall out at times, but abuse is different. Abuse can be shouting, threats, name-calling, controlling who you talk to, or making you feel like everything is your fault.
In your own relationships — whether it's with family, friends, or someone you're dating — unhealthy behaviours might look like constant put-downs, checking your phone without permission, pressure to do things you don't want to do, or making you feel small or guilty all the time.
Living with abuse can be very difficult; we understand how scary it might be to reach out. We are a confidential service, offering information and support to children and young people who have been impacted by abusive behaviours. If you would like to chat to one of our workers about how the service could work for you, please get in touch. We have also included some helpful links and videos below.
This short documentary explores what abuse within teenage relationships can look like
What Is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is when someone tries to make you doubt yourself — your thoughts, your feelings, or even your memory — to keep control over you.
It can sound like:
“You’re overreacting.”
“That never happened.”
“You’re just being dramatic.”
“You always make things up.”
Over time, it can make you feel like you’re the problem, even when you’re not. You might start questioning what’s real or wondering if your feelings are valid. That’s exactly what gaslighting does — it confuses you and makes you feel small, so the other person stays in control.
🚩 What It Can Look Like:
Someone denying they said or did something — even when you know they did.
Making you feel guilty when you stand up for yourself.
Twisting your words or using things you’ve told them against you.
Acting like your feelings don’t matter or aren’t “normal.”
This short video explains a bit more about gaslighting
Extra info
Mental Health Support
“Experiencing domestic abuse can have a big impact on a young person’s mental health — it can affect how they see themselves, how safe they feel, and how they cope day to day.”
